I want to use a couple of blog post to tell my story, and then move on to regular blogging, like what me, Francois❤️ and the horses are doing every day 😃If you like the reading please cheer the link on your social media, blogging take time, so I sort of need to know that what I am writing you want to read, if my blog sucks and are boring😋 it is better that I skip the blogging
So after my education at Strömsholm in Sweden I moved to Danmark and started to work as a rider for Jens and Birgit Jensen, those who are from Danmark knows Jens as -Krølle Jens, they lived in Nibe!
Here it was a lot of horses and many new experiences for me!
My dad of course drowe me there, and here is a picture of me🙋, Latour my daddy and the truck at a show in Danmark!
After this I got a job in Norway at Olympic Rider Stein Endresen, where I learn a lot and about managing top horses.
At this stable nothing was left to coincidence, everything is perfectly planed down to every detail! And I think that is a part of their success!
While I was working there I applied for a scholar ship at Stömsholm again to be a “Jumping student” , got in and started to train a lot with my great trainer that I have today Sylve Söderstrand, who actually has been the chef d Equipe of Sweden and Norway.
Pictures form my second time at Strömsholm
When the scholarship was finished I moved in with my boyfriend (now ex boyfriend) in Sweden!
Would prefer to skip over this part but it is a part of me and I want to cheer it with you, to show you that even though life is not a fairy-tail everyday, YOU DECIDE WHO YOU ARE GOING TO BE!
My boyfriend (ex) has a beautiful farm by the water, it was so perfect, accept for one thing.
(If you read this, please know that I wish you the best! And I hope you are happy and healthy!)
When he was drinking he became violent and it is hard for me to write, because he hit me.
Many times my friends had to come and rescue me, other times when he had taken my phone I had to try to run through the forest to our nearest neighbur.
It was a very hard time.
We tried everything, he went to therapy, he started on Anti bus (pills that makes you sick if you drink) but non of this helped.
I know I am a confident person, and when I was watching films with a subject like this when I was a teenager I always thought if something like that happened to me I would just pack my bags and leave when the man was away.
In reality it was a lot harder.
He was very controlling.
I had recently bought a horse from Stud Alfarvad in Danmark and they send with me one other horse to ride and sell in Sweden, while I was there trying horse they also offered me a job.
Here is some pictures of him! Really love you Chellani💖 and I know you have a good home I. Norway
It was no way my (ex) boyfriend would let me leave.But after he had been extremely violent one time we agreed with his doctor that I would go and work in Danmark 6 months. I told my boyfriend that it would be a great experience for me, and I would learn a lot that I could use for our business when I came back.
I knew in my heart that I wanted to leave him, and leave the beautiful farm and never come back.
I can not even describe how a person like that can control you, and it was difficult for me to get him out of my life. I had lied to him and told him I would be coming back again.
He kept visiting me in Danmark.
One Tuesday night I had been teaching my students at another club and came back home to the stud farm where I lived, he was drunk and beat me very bad and ripped the clothes I was wearing in pieces.
The grooms who also lived at the Danish Stud farm rescued me and brought me to the hospital and the police.
I was beaten up and could not ride for at least one week.
I am for ever grateful for what happened next:
The owner of the Stud farm Susanne Hansen got it organized so the girls brought me some clothes, put me on a plane to my parents home in Narvik and told me: “Now you are going home to rest, and when you come back you are going to stay here and be safe and “he(the ex boyfriend)” is never going to come back”
And like that I got out of it.
After this had happened to me for years ,-I had two choices, I could lay down and feel sorry for myself, relive all the bad things that happened, think about it everyday and be scared and sad
Or I could be grateful for that it was over and embrace the new life I was give, be happy for all the good things I have and make exciting plans for the future.
I chose happiness, and I hope everybody who reads this also can do that!
There is now way to happiness, happiness is the way 💖
Thank you: Ola and Ulla, Monica, Jeanette, John and Louise for saving me when it was needed in Sweden
Monica and her horse at that time, Gwendelyn by Cardento
Thank you Jannie, Karina, Jenny, Laura for rescuing me that night